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“Between stimulus and response, there is a space. In that space lies our freedom and our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our happiness.” -Dr. Viktor Frankl Having guided thousands of people through nearly every twist, turn, and tragedy life offers, here’s what I know to be true. Whether […]

Sting is 71 years old, and the guy still rocks! I recently saw him rocking on stage with guitar in hand, jamming away. Whereas most guys his age can no longer hit the high notes (don’t bother with Daryl Hal), Sting seems to hit them all (even “Roxanne,” which I didn’t think he’d be able

As legend has it, Michelangelo carved the famous statue of David out of a piece of marble discarded by other sculptors.  Why did others discard it? Because it appeared to be an inferior piece of marble: stained, broken, unworthy, and beyond salvation. But they were no Michelangelo. This man’s mastery lay not only in skills

To say yes to life is not only meaningful under all circumstances – because life itself is – but it is also possible under all circumstances.” – Dr. Viktor Frankl I like simple tools and nothing is more simple than this. The word no is a closed syllable. It is terse. It is abrupt, and

For Anyone Seeking A Way Forward In Life Here’s something I have learned over the years: counseling and coaching people. Everyone seems to think they are the only ones who don’t know what they’re doing. Seriously, a young husband confides in me that he’s not ready to be a father. An older woman shares that

Since the beginning of time, human beings have turned to faith, religion, and spirituality as a refuge during the world’s storms, a pathway through personal struggles, and a roadmap to navigate when life’s darkness descends. Today, however, when we find ourselves, individually or collectively, within the storms, many of us (perhaps the growing majority of

Let’s begin with a story about a guy named Shelly.  Shelly was in his late forties. He was a successful businessman, taking his company from a scrappy little startup to a multi-million dollar business. He was married to a beautiful woman, had three amazing kids, good friends, a caring community, and a house with a

Today is Father’s Day, and we’re supposed to say, “Happy Father’s Day.” However, what do you do when it’s not happy? Guiding men at midlife and onwards who have been battered and beaten up by life and who are searching for deeper meaning, purpose, and resilience in their lives, I’m very aware that today can

Everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of human freedoms—to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way.” – Dr. Viktor Frankl Sooner or later, you will experience what I know as “the crisis crossroads,” or what I’ll also refer to as one of

I’m so tired of the way we define beauty. “She is beautiful because she has no blemish or a wrinkle.” “He is beautiful because he doesn’t have an ounce of flab or a single gray hair.” “It is beautiful because it is polished, shiny, and new.” This isn’t beauty. This is empty. This is shallow.